Come on, be sincere, has this never happened to you? To be absolutely lost when the things are moving so fast? To have to take decisions when you have no idea what is best? Well guys, do not panic. This has happened to all of us! And the best part of it... is exactly that: the unknown. So let’s leave the fears outside and try to enjoy it!
So, yeah, you have left your country and here you are, living in Sweden to study what you like! Congratz!! Really! You are brave! Not everyone is ready to leave his/her comfort zone and jump into new adventures like this :) Now, I want to share with you some things that have worked for me and maybe can be of help for you! And believe me, I am a lazy person, so I won’t take you out for exhausting activities, but hey, move your butt and make yourself feel good! ^^
Join activities that you know you like but DO try NEW ones!
Why is that? You might be thinking: ‘If I don’t like theater I’m not gonna even try!’ Or the one reading near you: ‘I have tons of school assignments, I don’t have time to try out spinning classes!’ Well, not that I go randomly to activities I don’t like, let’s be honest, but from time to time it is good to explore new stuff, because you know what, you might end up liking it! Go with a friend to a salsa class for the first time, join badminton with your classmates or read that book with an ugly title! You don’t know what you can benefit from!
Forget about the phone one day and TALK to STRANGERS!
Yes, I know we are in Sweden, and talking to strangers might sound a bit wild, but hey! I just told you that you are brave, so do not chicken now (I count on you ¬¬ !). So here is the thing, try it at least once! It’s the beginning of the week but I’m sure you already have plans for the weekend (if not, whatever, this works anytime!). Whenever you need to go somewhere, and are about to open (wonderful) google maps app, please don’t! Let’s get crazy and ask someone! It’s ridiculous how helpful (we) people are if we just ask! Besides, like this, you might discover new peaceful parks, a shop you had never noticed (by the way, full of exactly that thing you were looking for your mom’s birthday!) or damn it, an amazing bar with Pub-quizzes and low prices on Tuesdays!
FIGHT for what you LIKE!
Speaking metaphorically, of course (peace and love, my friends). Now, seriously. Just think for a second why are you studying ‘whatever it might be’, why did you choose to leave your family, friends, and your home, to come here. And here I might be talking to two different groups of people (which I can definitely identify myself in): those who knew right from middle school that wanted to become “bla bla” and those others who still today have no clue what they are doing. OK. Fair enough. But whatever that moved you to choose it, it makes you happy! It motivated you to move abroad! So fight for it! Either if you just started your bachelor or are about to finish the master, even if you do not know what will come after, put all your energy in doing it well! Questions will be answered through the way. This might sound a bit silly, but the funny thing is that they really do.
YOU CAN bear more than what you think!
It is clear, right from the start of this post, that you (me) don’t know what will come later. That you might feel a bit lost thinking on the next semester. I’m sure you now have plenty of stuff to do for school (if not, lucky you!) and do not have time to consider what’s next. Planning ahead is good, it keeps your mind in order (and housing in Lappis). But being spontaneous will bring you things you didn’t even imagine! And thought it might sound as cliché, you don’t know what you are capable of until you have done it! Seriously! I don’t just said it, it has happened to me. Last year I was, in the same day, working as au-pair, coming to class at Uni, teaching languages to kids, organizing extra activities for my class and going to the gym! How did that happen? I don’t know, it’s a mystery! Even my grandma couldn’t believe me at first (neither myself), but if I was able to do it, you do as well! Organize well your time but always, always, leave some time to spontaneity! :)
We wish we had a compass to know what to do next, but if we did, we could be missing the wonderful adventure of exploring!
Hope you liked it! Be positive, people, good things happen either you expect them or not!